Send a message to the person who requested a photo of the grave monument of Esther Ann Lightowlers with the following comment:
Charlotte Birkbeck is the mother-in-law of my great-great grandmother, and all the Birkbeck women on this stone are related and also quite elusive, and also were evasive about their ages and relationships to each other in the various censuses. Also I am trying to trace Thomas Birkbeck the son of Charlotte, who married my g-g- grandmother in 1872, and then disappears from the records. This stone is one piece of the jigsaw puzzle. Thank you in advance, v v much! I can't offer help as I live in the middle of the countryside away from any cemeteries.